Stop Stopping Yourself

Do you ever find yourself wanting something to happen in your life but it’s just not coming to you?

You think you are doing all of the right things, but for reasons that you can’t understand, it’s just not materializing the way you hoped it would?

You are trying to manifest the hell out of your life, so why isn’t the success, love, fit body, or healthy relationship you so deeply desire coming?

We all tend to stop ourselves from doing things out of our comfort zone because of that dreaded four-letter word: FEAR.

You may call it something else like perfectionism, procrastination, self-sabotage, or even indecisiveness. Whatever word you want to use is fine, but understand that FEAR is what holds you back from just going for it and taking the massive action you need to succeed.

Stop Stopping Yourself.

• Ask yourself: What is the worst that can happen?

When you start to think about what you want to do and feel nervous, overwhelmed or worried that you might fail or look foolish, stop. Catch yourself in the moment and ask yourself this: “what is the worst that will happen?” What do you come up with?

• Decide what you want in your life, and be HONEST. 

A lot of times we aren’t honest with ourselves about what we want in life. We may say we want something to happen, but deep down we don’t want it. Or the opposite, we say we are happy and content with the way life is, but secretly we are dying inside because we want so much more. So the key here is to be brutally honest with yourself and own whatever it is you want. It’s your life and if you want to make it a big one, own it.

• Don’t overcomplicate it.

You know what you want to achieve in your life, so keep it simple and keep your eye on the end game. Don’t overcomplicate things with too many layers, people, or processes. You want to get from Point A to Point B. You don’t need to make a million pit stops along the way and get derailed. Stay focused and understand what you are working towards.

• Make a plan.

This one is important. One of my favorite quotes is “goals without plans are just dreams”. And it’s so true! Do you want to build a business, get a promotion or buy a house? Well, you need a plan to get you there. Sit down and figure out what steps you need to take and map it out. Understand exactly what you need to do and stick to the plan.

• Get support.

Find the right people who can help you. Hire a coach, work with a mentor or seek out friendships with people who are doers. I read once that if you are the most successful friend in your circle, it’s time to find new friends. While that might sound harsh (and I don’t fully agree), the idea is that if you want to elevate you need to be around people who think big, act big and live big. So find some of those people and spend time with them.

• Just do it.

And lastly, all the planning, support, and embracing don’t mean anything if you don’t just go for it and take that first step. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Or even pretty. It can be clumsy, awkward, and ugly. But once you take that first step, well a whole new world opens up.

Imagine what your life could be if you allow yourself to just do it?

I am on a quest to help startup entrepreneurs to overcome their limiting beliefs, so if you want to join me, I would love to have you as part of my tribe! Come hang with us over at Orange Memo Startup Community on Facebook and connect with amazing entrepreneurs who are going for it in a big way!

And remember, you’re not fully committed until you start!